What’s a sacred pause?

shino glaze, center stripe bowls

Sacred pauses give us breathing space and a moment of connection with God.  April Yamasaki encourages us to look for and cultivate those pauses in the midst of daily living, transforming our ideas about what “counts” as spiritual practice.  Today I’m visiting with April, author of Sacred Pauses, at her website. 

She has included me as part of her interview series, where I’m reflecting on the practice of making pottery as a sacred pause. 

What’s it like to keep company with clay over time?  And how is this similar to the way God keeps company with us?  I hope you’ll click over and join our conversation.  Come on, take a moment to breathe with us.

Standby Recipes, The Final Edition: You want me to make pesto?

I started this Standby Recipes series to encourage folks who are swamped or inexperienced to prepare some real food, at least every once in a while.  I wanted you to just start somewhere and to feel confident messing around in the kitchen.  Well, I think you may be ready to fly, little birdies!  Moosewood Restaurant Ithaca New York

Before I end the series with this post, I’ll mention again that Smitten Kitchen is an excellent site for browsing and finding your own go-to standby recipes.  Another favorite for weeknight meals is a book called Simple Suppers: Fresh Ideas for the Weeknight Table by The Moosewood Collective.  If you read through the “Well-Stocked Pantry” appendix and take some of the tips to heart, you will always have enough of the right ingredients on hand to pull together a quick, tasty, healthy meal.

Here is one of the many recipes I use from Simple Suppers, for Fettuccine with Walnut Pesto.  I know, I know.  Pesto is something you buy in a plastic container at the store or order at restaurants.  It seems hard or too fancy or way too time-consuming.  Not so!  This is the recipe to prove you wrong and to demonstrate that you don’t have to wait for summer basil, either.

Fettuccine with Walnut Pesto

Cook 1 lb of fettuccine or other pasta according to the instructions on the box.  When it’s done, drain it but reserve about 1 cup of the pasta-cooking water.

While that is cooking, toast 1 c walnuts, keeping a close eye on them so they do not burn.  Set aside to cool.

Put all of these items into a food processor or blender and puree until smooth: 

  • 1 c chopped fresh or canned tomatoes (If it is any time but the height of summer tomato season, use diced, canned tomatoes.)
  • 2 garlic cloves
  • 1 T extra-virgin olive oil
  • ½ t salt

Add walnuts to the blender/food processor and process until the mixture is well-mixed and the consistency is a lumpy paste.  (If you are using fresh tomatoes you may need to add 1-2 T water.)

Put the drained pasta into a large serving bowl and toss it with the walnut pesto, adding the reserved cooking water as necessary to make it saucy enough.  Top it with fresh chopped basil and grated parmesan cheese, if desired.

The whole thing might take you 20-30 minutes the first time, but I bet you can whittle that down to 10-15 with practice.  Bon appétit!

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photo credit:  © 2007 Michael Sauers, CC BY-NC-SA 2.0

Standby Recipes #4: Stepping It Up a Notch

empty brownie pan

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It’s Friday and you need some brownies this weekend.  I can tell.  Sure, you could pick some up at the coffee shop or the bakery section in the grocery store on the way home.  But I’m pretty sure what you really need are these brownies, hands down the best homemade brownies I’ve had.

So far in the standby recipes series I’ve gone easy on you and I’ve focused on dinner.  But everyone needs a little sweetness in life and what’s a snow day without a warm concoction to delight and indulge in?  I hope you don’t wait until it’s snowing again to try these because they are worth heating up the oven in summer.

Smitten Kitchen is a beautiful and tasty site for finding new gems and fresh takes on old favorites.  You don’t have to be an accomplished cook to follow along and you can spend a surprising amount of time hitting the “Surprise Me!” random recipe generator link. 

Here is the link to her “My Favorite Brownies” recipe, which is now my favorite brownie recipe, too.  A few tips from me:

  • I make them exactly as she describes, though I had to go out to find “flaky sea salt” (Maldon salt – you should rub it together between your palms after measuring, to break it up a bit before adding it to the other ingredients).  It’s a fancy ingredient and you can certainly use kosher sea salt (I did this the first time or two I made them), but the Maldon salt is a nice touch – and then you have it around for sprinkling on other dishes.
  • Before using this recipe, I had never tried her method of spraying and parchment in the bottom of the pan.  Try it!  It is wonderfully efficient.
  • Please don’t fret if you have never tried melting chocolate and butter together in this double boiler method she describes.  It is easier than you might think.  You put about 1-2 inches of water in the bottom of a saucepan and put a bowl on top of that pan (a glass Pyrex bowl is perfect for this).  It just needs to rest on the pan without touching the water below.  You put the butter and chocolate in the bowl as she directs and stir while the water below simmers (once you’ve got it boiling, turn it down to a simmer or very low boil so it doesn’t get too hot and burn the chocolate).  It is really that simple and now you can impress people by throwing around terms like “double boiler.”
  • One more note on ingredients:  Other than the splurge for the fancy salt, the ingredients are common kitchen staples and there are only 6 of them.  This is so easy to whip up!  I use regular Baker’s unsweetened chocolate and I have even made these with gluten-free flour on occasion and they were still amazing.

Happy Friday snow day in summer!

Standby Recipes #3: A Study in Simplicity

frozen peas package

As I wrote recently, I’m posting a few of my standby recipes, and here’s the third one.  Since my aim is to share a few tried and true, go-to, standby meals, this is one of those simple but satisfying gems.  Because I want you to actually want to prepare a meal for yourself from genuine raw ingredients –at least every once in a while – this is about as low-prep and raw as it gets.

I present to you the humble baked potato.  Seriously.  Real food, the oven does most of the work, and you feel truly fed.  Comfort food at its simplest and best.

If you have no other choice, you can microwave your potato but you will thank me after you’ve tried it in the oven.  If you happen to have a gas oven, stand back and be prepared to swoon.

Here’s what you do (and just multiply this for however many people you are feeding, other than yourself):

Turn your oven to 400F.  Use any type of “white” potato you like (russet, Idaho, Yukon Gold).  Scrub it clean in water and trim off any eyes or bad spots with a paring knife.  Leave the rest of the skin intact.  Poke a few holes in it with your knife or a fork.  When the oven is up to temperature, put the potato directly on the oven rack in the center of the oven and set a timer for 1 hour.

Go off and enjoy a glass of something, read a chapter in your novel, or watch an episode of Frasier on Netflix.

When the timer buzzes, check the potato by sticking a fork or knife in it.  The skin should be somewhat crackly and the knife should go in easy and smooth.  If you meet resistance, let it cook another 15 minutes or so and check again. 

Even if you think you don’t like peas, get some frozen green peas and be prepared to change your mind (by all means, use fresh ones if it’s summer or you can find them).  While the potato is finishing its last few minutes of cooking time, put a generous ½ – 1 cup of peas in a small saucepan with about an inch of water.  Turn it to hi and let the peas cook in the boiling water for 1-2 minutes.  They barely need cooking and should still have some texture (not mushy) when they’re done.  Drain the water off.

When the potato is ready, use pot holders to take it out of the oven and plop it on your plate.  Immediately slice it open and insert copious amounts of butter, mashing it into the flesh so it all becomes one lovely substance.

Top your butter-infused potato with peas, salt, and pepper.  If you are in the mood, add grated cheese.  Allow yourself to moan as you enjoy it.

Standby Recipes #2: Beans – No soaking required

dial on a crock pot

As I wrote last week, I’m posting a few of my standby recipes, and here’s the second one.  You are going to need a crock pot for this one but it will be a purchase that’s worth it.  This is satisfying and filling year-round and doesn’t heat up the kitchen the way an oven does.  You can let it cook overnight or during the day while you’re at work and you’re ready to go at dinner time.

Put the following ingredients in a crock pot and turn it on hi (if you want to eat in 3-6 hours) or lo (if you want to eat in 6-12).  Give it a stir every once in a while and add more liquid if it seems too dry.

  • 16 oz package of dried kidney or black beans, rinsed under cold water.  Examine the beans and remove any small rocks that may be hiding out in the mix.  (You really don’t have to soak the beans before cooking in a crock pot.  Yes!)
  • 1 can diced tomatoes, fire-roasted if you can find it
  • Generous pinch or two of salt and some fresh black pepper
  • 1-2 tsps of chopped jalapeno peppers.  I use prepared ones from a jar, so we always have a few in the fridge.  Test for heat if you are using fresh and adjust the amount as needed.
  • Water or vegetable stock to cover the other ingredients by about an inch.  (I use store bought cartons of stock and just refrigerate any portion I don’t use.)

About 30-60 minutes before you want to eat, dice a medium yellow onion and sauté it in butter or vegetable oil until it is nicely browned or even blackened in a few places. 

Dump the onion and butter/oil into the crock pot and stir.  Let the flavors mingle while you make some rice and/or grate some cheddar cheese to sprinkle on top.  These beans are great ladled over rice or a baked potato, but they are fabulous all by themselves in a bowl, with or without a little cheese on top.

This should make about 6 full servings.  If you have leftovers, they make a tasty addition to homemade nachos.

Margins

screenshot asking to print outside the established margin

Sometimes when I’m trying to print a form or a document with special lay-out features, the computer will ask me if I’m sure about that, since it will mean printing into the established margins.  I always say “yes” to this question:  I want to fit it onto one page or I like the way it looks with less white space at the edges.  The problem is, I do this in the rest of my life, too.

I recently read MaryAnn McKibben Dana’s excellent book Sabbath in the Suburbs, a reflection on her family’s year of observing a weekly Sabbath.  One of the things she learned to do during that year is to take something off the list.  When she embarks on the new day with the to-do list loaded and ready to go, she looks it over and purposely, in advance, without regret or bargaining, takes one thing off.  She intentionally chooses to leave something undone – before she’s even gotten into the day.

At a clergy gathering last year we listened to a speaker who was there to help us “manage time” and organize ourselves better.  The most helpful thing he did was urge us not to schedule every moment of the day.  I struggle with this.

And yet, when I look at the calendar and lists for the day ahead and I see more than I can do and appointments on the hour all day long, I feel discouraged before I start.  I feel like I am taking as big a breath as my lungs can handle and then trying to swim laps without taking another breath.  Until I can’t anymore.  The problem with this (in addition to the running out of air and gasping and dying part of that image) is that this type of scheduling leaves no room.  There is no room for mistakes or changing my mind or something unexpected.  There is no room to reflect on that amazing conversation I was privileged to have with a student, no room to absorb all that is keeping me so busy.

There is a strange loneliness in rushing.  It’s easy to slip across the surface of a frantically-scheduled day and come to the end of it with only a checked-off checklist.  In the margins, there is room to connect – to myself, others, and God – without goals and agendas intruding.  A quiet morning moment on the porch, sipping an evening glass of wine, time to walk around the block between meetings, an hour with nothing “to do,” a Saturday without a schedule – margins.  Space for the unknown, for inspiration.   A margin makes room for the fullness of resonance.

The best days are the ones that feel full enough.  Not harried and overflowing and breathless, just full.  With plenty going on but also a little room to breathe.  Space between this moment and the next.  Space intentionally not filled up, like the white space around the print on a page.  The margin you leave for error – or wonder.

On this snowy morning I am starting the day with a long list.  I don’t know what I will intentionally take off the list but I’m going to try to find one thing.  I’m going to tell that crazy computer mind of mine “no” this time.  No, don’t print there.  Maintain the margins.

What Gets in the Way

sign by a dusty gravel road reads: "Slow down - people breathing"_Polebridge, MTAt a recent clergy event the workshop leader asked us talk about what gets in the way in pastoral care situations.  When you are trying to offer or articulate hope to someone, what gets in the way for you? 

I listened as someone in my group talked about the cliques in her congregation and how they were insular and closed and it was hard to break into those circles.  I thought that was a weird answer.  Not an uncommon experience, maybe, but a weird way to answer what gets in the way “for you.”  As she continued to talk she merely described in greater detail how they were closed off and why that was hard and frustrating.

She was clearly frustrated but she also wasn’t saying anything personal.  She wasn’t actually describing why or how this situation gets in the way of her expression of hope.  I reminded her of the question after she’d been talking for 5 minutes or more.  She looked momentarily stunned, taken off course of her (perhaps usual) rant about the congregation.  What makes this hard for you?  What are you afraid will happen if you try to break apart the cliques?  Like a breath of fresh air in a room of tired words and circular scripts, she said, “Rejection.”

But when the next person spoke she also started in the safe and well-worn territory of how frustrating the congregation was in certain behaviors.  In great detail she described their patterns and pointed out how foolish those were.  She didn’t offer a glimpse of her internal struggle around this situation until I reminded her of the question.

This is one of the reasons I find many clergy gatherings annoying and a little heartbreaking.  Instead of relaxing into the wisdom and support of colleagues, instead of reveling in having peers with whom to share the strange (and wonderful) experience of our callings, we so often retreat into posturing and pretense.  Even here, we are reticent to be who we really are.

I’ve been reading Brené Brown’s work recently.  “Exhaustion as a status symbol” is her description of one of the ways we rank our worth among others and a very unhealthy way of arranging our lives.  If I am going fast enough and my to-do list is long enough and I am always busy enough then I can proudly say “crazy busy” anytime anyone asks.  You know how that goes.  When someone dares to schedule a vacation, others say, “Must be nice.  Wish I had time to take vacation!  I haven’t had one in 3 years.”

I have even encountered this – multiple times – in clergy gatherings.  Pastors who never take a day off or turn the phone and email off.  Pastors who look at you with pity, amusement, disdain, hostility, pride, or a combination of those when you talk about observing Sabbath or choosing to say “no” to a request or in any way refusing for one moment to pretend that you are Super Pastor.  No wonder we are afraid to start where we really are, to say “rejection.”

I admit that I am not looking at most clergy gatherings as opportunities to share my deepest thoughts, dreams, and struggles.  But I do keep hoping to get beneath the professional minister veneer and the competitive colleague game and at least savor the day and the time together as the gifts they are.